In this article, we explore how neurodivergent people are often passed between services in a cycle of blame and avoidance, what we’re calling the “hot potato” of responsibility. When no one takes ownership, support is delayed or denied, leaving people exhausted and underserved. We’ll unpack the real impact of this system and what needs to change to build services that truly support neurodivergent lives.

In this article, I share my journey from relying on traditional diagnostic labels to embracing a detailed neuro-profile that reflects my unique way of thinking and processing. I explain how focusing on my specific cognitive, sensory, and motor traits has empowered me to understand my needs, develop tailored strategies, and create a calmer day-to-day life. I also explore how shifting from a deficit-focused view to recognising natural variations can transform support systems, and I invite readers to join the ND Perspective community to discuss these ideas further.